I was having deep thoughts today.
Here’s the scenario: Someone asks you a question. It’s any person in any situation. And you choose not to respond for whatever reason. And the person responds, “Didn’t your mother ever tell you it’s rude to not answer when someone asks you a question?”
To which I’d love to reply, “Not if the question was rude.” BOO-YAH!
You see I’m often asked, “Hey…are you a natural red?” Now I don’t mind this question coming from friends or acquaintances. They’ve known me long enough to have earned the right to ask me about my hair. And the question, coming from them, is likely to occur during the course of a conversation.
On the contrary, there is a plethora of total strangers who have no qualms about stopping me on the street or yelling across it in order to satisfy their undying curiosity. Never mind that I’m walking and talking with a friend. Forget that I’m in the middle of a phone call. Who cares if I’m picking up dog shit! They simply must know and they must know NOW!
My response to this is usually to roll my eyes and keep walking. Or, if I have yet to establish eye contact, I’ll just completely ignore them. One day I’d love to pretend I’m deaf or that I don’t speak English. But it’s got to be a language that isn’t very popular amongst Americans…like Swahili or something. Maybe something more believable. I digress…
You may think I’m crazy. That I’m overreacting. Why is that rude? To me it’s like being asked, “Hey…is that your real nose?” Regardless of the answer, it’s just not a good feeling to be asked by a stranger about the authenticity of a body part. It’s riddled with implications. And frankly, it’s none of their business.
Now I realize that there are people out there who have no idea that they’re being rude by asking these types of questions. They probably have no intention of causing offense. They’ve also probably never dyed their hair. Or worn colored contacts. Or had extensive dental work.
Or maybe they’re just rude. Therefore, I reserve the right to be equally rude by refusing to answer the question. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.
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